"On December 9, 2009 I finally got the phone call I had been waiting for so long. The call I couldn´t believe would come at all. But exactly 5 months later, on May 9, 2010 I met the loveliest boy in the world, my sweet Bac. His name means silver, and he´s like a silver ray of light in my life."
We met in HCMC, in the clinic of Christina Noble´s Children´s Foundation. Oddly enough, I wasn’t nervous at all. Just happy and calm. We visited the clinic, played with the children and asked lots of questions. Bac was sleeping. I put a cuddly toy beside him in the bed, and he hugged it in his sleep. He was so beautiful! My heart flooded over with warm maternal feeling. I was told Bac was a bit shy, and that seemed to be true. He kept watching us but wouldn´t come close. Only when we offered biscuits and candy he approached us. This guy seemed to have a sweet tooth alright!
Bac came from Rach Gia in Kien Giang province to the clinic in HCMC when he was only 2 weeks old. He was underweight, probably premature, but after being well nourished in the clinic he grew a lot. Bac lived in a room with approximately 20 other children. The nannies were warm and caring, I was so glad to see that. Bac was now 22 months old. Just a few months ago he was moved from the small children’s department downstairs to this bigger department. Some children were older and had special needs. Most of them seemed to be happy though. They took my rucksack and carried it around running and laughing a lot! These children made a strong impression on me, and when we return to Vietnam I hope we will see them again. There was especially one girl I can´t let go off my mind. She didn’t say much, but clutched my brother’s leg and cried without a sound with big tears in her eyes when we were leaving.
The day after, we went to the clinic to take Bac with us. He was sad and cried on the way out to the car. My heart ached for him, for the big change in life that was going to happen to him. He fell asleep on my shoulder, weakly sobbing. From that moment he wouldn’t leave me out of sight for a second. He was secure with me, no one else could come near. We started to get to know each other and to build a strong connection.
It has been 3,5 years since we met. Bac is now 5 years old. My cozy little family of three is working out really well. My children love each other, even though they have sibling quarrels like everyone else sometimes. Bac looks up to his big sister and she is proud of him too. I think getting a brother from the same part of the world has given her a stronger self esteem. Also, a bigger “we” as the family has grown.
Bac has a gorgeous personality. He’s a happy little boy. He’s not often shy, at least not at home. He’s warm and caring, he likes hugging and kissing, he’s very inventive and likes toys that he can drive himself. He’s good at listening and is curious about things. He’s popular among other children, like when he comes to kindergarten many kids come to the door and scream: Look, Bac is here now! Come play with us! I could go on and on about this lovely boy who stole my heart away the very first second!